It happened, finally, it happened; my boyfriend of 5 years just popped the question. I’ve never been this happy in my entire life, I wanted to scream out loud I’M GETTING MARRIED! I was so excited, I couldn’t wait to tell the world.
First I had to start with my family. Days after, still basking in the euphoria of being someone’s fiancee, I was brought back to earth by a call from my uncle.
He said, “Jcee I am very fond of you and I have to tell you what I feel about this impending marriage. You just rounded up your youth service, you don’t have a job or a career path yet and I have known you to be industrious, career driven and a great achiever; what do u think will happen to your dreams after the wedding?” He continues, you are going to start taking care of your husband and before you know it, you have a bunch of kids to take care of too, what happens to your dreams? This is how it works, either u marry early, give birth to your kids and then pursue your career or you get married after you have gotten to a certain level in your career but not when you are just about to start a career.
l pondered on this conversation I had with my uncle. I love my boo and I will love to spend the rest of my life with him but what of my career, my dreams, my aspiration? Are they all going to be on halt? Will I be happy in a marriage without achieving my purpose in life?
I really do not want to take my marriage vows without having answers to these questions.
One Monday morning while I was observing my devotion I stumbled on…… CONTINUE